Exploring the Joy of Solo Dates: Discovering Independence in Your Own Company

In a world that often prioritizes busy schedules and social obligations, the idea of independence can feel lost. Everyone enjoys shared experiences, but there is a special kind of freedom that comes from spending time alone. In 2023 I became a divorced mom of two and since then I have been on my personal journey of rediscovery. I would say I have been "reclaiming my time". After years of aligning my joy and happiness with another person it has been an enlightening experience to realize I should be doing that for myself.

Since my divorce, I have traveled, both with family and friends and alone. I have attended hours and hours of therapy, read many books, picked up a second job and a new hobby of running. What I have begun to enjoy is my time alone and the peace that it brings,

This practice, known as "solo dating," allows you to focus on what you truly love and what brings you joy. Ready to uncover the delights of solo dates? Let’s explore why this experience can be incredibly fulfilling.

Why would anyone choose a Solo Date?

Being raised as an only child (I have an older brother who did not grow up in the home with me), I have not shied away from time alone. I am consistently comfortable in my own space. Before I got married I would go to the movies or to dinner alone without second thought. Once I'd gotten married, and had children the alone time seemed to happen less and less. Now that I am single again I am reminded how much I missed the time alone.

Solo dates provide more than just an escape from the norm; they are a chance to honor your individuality. When you engage in activities—like dining at a favorite restaurant or visiting a local art exhibit—you break away from the need to satisfy others' tastes. For example, if you love Italian cuisine but your friends prefer sushi, a solo date gives you the freedom to indulge in that comforting pasta dish without compromise.

By embracing solo dating, you enable self-discovery. According to a study by the Journal of Happiness Studies, individuals who engage in solo activities report a 60% increase in overall life satisfaction.

Curating My Solo Date

For over a year I have desired to attend The Candelight Fever concerts but hadn't made the time. I finally booked the Whitney Houston Rendition as a special treat for myself. On that Saturday afternoon I decided it was time for me to get out of town and enjoy the concert. I made a complete day of my solo date, even obtaining a recommendation for a Pho Restaurant just 10 minutes from the concert hall.

I wore all black, so it was absolutely on brand to order black shrimp dumplings.

I talked to my mother for much of the ride up and then spent the rest of my ride listening to the songs that they would be playing for the concert. The soft air through the breeze of my cracked windows and sunroof made me feel free and uplifted.

Driving even just two hours away from home can make it feel like a short escape from reality. The escape that we all need! 2 hours away, a new restaurant and a curated experience to make me feel like a new woman.

A few ideas for you.

Thinking of taking your own solo date?

Below is a short list of things to consider :

• Dining Experience

• Explore Nature

• A New Cultural Experience

• Travel Alone

• Dessert Date

• Pick Up A New Hobby

Reflection

As I sat fully engulfing in the musical expression of the Charlotte Strings, I found myself drifting to a new place. A place of joy and fulfillment. A place a peace. A place where my nervous system was settled. A place I want to ensure I continue to go.

Please enjoy this clip of the Charlotte Strings playing Whitney Houston

"I will always Love You":

This time of clarity and peace would have been impossible had I not taken the risk of takin "me" out of town. You have to do it for you.

To remind you what your Gut feels like, what your Voice sounds like and most importantly, what you Need.

Embrace the Journey of Solo Dating

Exploring the joy of solo dates is a powerful journey towards independence and self-discovery. This enhances how you view yourself and empowers you to celebrate your individuality. Whether married, divorced, or "it's complicated", solo dating or personal time alone can be essential to keeping ones emotions, desires and needs in order.