Happy Theraversary

I don't think "Thereaversary" is a real word; however, that is what February is to me. This month is my 2nd Theraversary and it feels like I am moving into another chapter.

Let's start back at 2021.

In January 2021 I decided I would do a 21-Day Fast. I prayed about what I needed to give up and I knew it was my morning pick me ups. Whether I stopped at Starbucks, Dunkin' or Chick-fil-A I was consistently stopping in the morning on the way to work. I thought it would be no big deal. I thought I could stop and keep carrying on, boy was I wrong.

In that time of fasting, I realized the caffeine was an addiction and if it wasn't the caffeine, I was definitely emotionally eating those chicken minis from Chick-fil-A.

After a few days without my addictions, I found that I'd lost motivation, I felt depressed, anxious and irritated. I realized those stops weren't just for the fun of it, they were keeping me going. One morning I woke up so tired and frustrated that I messaged two friends telling them I felt emotionally drained. Thankfully one of those friends share with me the information to her therapist and the rest is history.

Two years later and we've tackled grief, childhood trauma, unhealthy spending habits, lack of self-worth, loneliness, identity, religion/legalism (more to come on these topics), people pleasing, generational wealth, generational curses, difficulties in marriage, forgiveness, anger and more. There is not an area that my therapist doesn't master, and I am forever grateful to God for her.

In these two years so many revelations have been found:

I did not grieve losing my father (when I was 15) or losing my grandmother (in 2012).

I was a people pleaser and lost my identity meeting everyone else's needs.

Due to people pleasing my self-worth was non-existent.

I had not taken time to reflect on my parents' divorce and how I felt about it as a child.

I did not have financial goals for Generational Wealth.

Most recently and probably my favorite was accepting that I have a passion for writing.

As blessed as I have been in Corporate America, I realize it is not what I am most passionate about. What I am most passionate about is the power and value in my words. I would not have come to accept this declaration had I not been in therapy.

Therapy helped me realize what was deep inside of me all along and encourage me to have the strength to allow that to shine through.

Therapy has given me freedom from my own thinking traps, bondage and practices. Therapy has taught me how to process what I am doing and why. Therapy has encouraged me to live my biggest, best, most full life.

I will continue to be a work in progress. I will continue to heal. I will continue to do the work.

You know what else?

I will continue to go to therapy, but now in therapy we're not only talking about my past we're talking about how to step out of my past and meet my right now with my future.

I highly recommend Therapy for EVERYONE. If you're struggling finding a therapist, I recommend Psychology Today (link below) you can filter by location, gender, insurance acceptance and religious preference.

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If you have time answer a few questions below: Have you been to therapy? Have you considered it but feel a little nervous? How can I support and encourage you to take that next step?